The Silent Intimacy Killer That’s Ruining Your Relationship

What happened the last time you were disappointed, angry, or hurt by something your partner did? If you chose to remain silent, you’re not alone. Many of us were never taught how to communicate effectively. Instead, we shut down or silently harbor resentment. Unfortunately, over time, these communication breakdowns create negative patterns that eventually dampen the intimacy in the relationship. “Often we stop communicating because one or both partners feels ‘it’s not worth it,’” says psychologist Anjhula Mya Singh Bais, PhD. “They have been down that path, and they think they know what it holds—more anger, bitterness, and frustration.” These

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4 Things That Happen To Your Vagina When You Stop Having Sex

The benefits of a healthy, happy sex life are myriad: Besides being fun, regular (good) sex boosts your immune system, cuts your stress levels, lowers your blood pressure, and reduces your risk of heart attack. Depending how much effort you put into it, intercourse also kinda/sorta counts as exercise, so you can feel good about being short a few steps on your Fitbit. Oh, and when you orgasm, a hormone called oxytocin—the “cuddle hormone”—floods your body with a rush of bliss, putting a smile on your face and helping you bond with your partner. But not every woman has the

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9 Relationship Experts Reveal What They Learned From Their Own Divorces

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5 Ways To Build Endurance In Bed

So, you love having sex. You like the ins-and-outs of the whole process and of course, the grand finale. But when you’re going at it, you find yourself getting exhausted, tired, and ready to throw in the towel (long before you actually get to a point of ecstasy). Your ability to maintain energy during sex is a lot like your strength to push through a tough boot camp class: it’s all about endurance. “Endurance is important in bed because it gives us a sense of control and feeling of empowerment. We are able to meet our partner’s sexual needs, and

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Silent Intimacy Killers

Silent Intimacy Killers Quoted in Reader’s Digest Stephen Duclos and Dr. Holly Richmond, Couple and Sex Therapists “A snarling wife on the balustrade is more than a man can bear” Charles Bukowski Stephen’s response: Our partners, male or female or in between, are convenient targets for our own insecurities, anxieties, and disappointments. Therapists from Carl Rogers in the the 60’s, to David Schnarch of today, suggest that the pathway to intimacy is inward. An intimate relationship can continue to develop if there is an effective process for expressing our own feelings, including negative ones, like anger. A relationship flourishes only

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How to Handle an Erection Fail, According To a Woman

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What It Really Means To Love Yourself, Because How You Start The Day Matters

Ask any therapist, relationship expert, yogi, psychic or your mama or best friend, and they’ll tell you the same thing: the most important — and complicated — relationship of your life is the one you have with yourself. Before you can be a true partner in a romantic relationship, an awesome friend, a kickass boss or a functioning member of society, you have to build your own self-confidence, self-worth, and self-value. “Self-love is important because it lays the framework for how we love others, and how we let them love us in return. If we do not love ourselves, how

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The 32 Most Overlooked Reasons Why Marriages Fail

“One overlooked reason is simply not having great sex. At the outset of a relationship, sex is always great. But as people move into longer-term relationship, they have to deal with how to keep sex exciting and how to stay on same page in terms of their sexual proclivities. Both partners must find a way to communicate their needs and wants about sex.” —Holly Richmond, Ph.D., certified sex therapist and marriage and family counselor. Read the full article by Charlotte Andersen here.

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​5 Things You Need to Know About Pansexuality

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Your Partner Wants A Threesome And You Don’t—Should You Break Up With Him?

You think that your relationship in and out of the sack is at its peak, and then he drops a bomb on you: He’s interested in trying a threesome. What the hell? While it might feel like a splash of cold water on your relationship, it doesn’t have to be. Before you freak out, we’ve asked experts for their take on how to approach this without making him feel crappy about his sexual interests or getting yourself into something you’re not ready for. Here’s what they say: Talk It Out First off, breaking up should not be your go-to response,

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