When you and your partner have mismatched libidos

About 15% of men and 34% of women say they’re not really interested in sex, according to a new study, statistics that few experts find surprising. In fact, low desire in one partner is probably the top reason couples seek out sex therapy. When one of you has more interest in sex than the other, it’s easy for the person with the higher sex drive to feel rejected, bruised and undesirable and for the partner who avoids sex to feel pressure, anxious and guilty. Any number of factors can affect sexual desire, and most of them have little to do with

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9 Reasons You Might Not Be Orgasming

While orgasms don’t define good sex, they are pretty damn nice. However, our bodies, minds, and relationships are complicated, meaning orgasms aren’t always easy to come by (pun intended). From dating anxiety to medication to too little masturbation, here are nine possible culprits if you’re having a hard time orgasming — plus advice on how to deal. 1. You expect vaginal sex alone to do it for you. One more time, for the cheap seats in the back: Only about 25 percent of people with vaginas come from penetration alone. If you’re not one of them, that doesn’t mean anything

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This Action-Packed Sex Tip Could Lead to Better Orgasms

If you’re still relying solely on your imagination to get off, it’s time to introduce your masturbation and sex habits to the 21st century, where virtual reality adult films are undeniably and unequivocally a thing. Sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D, pioneered the virtual reality adult film industry last year with Virtual Sexology, which is erotic virtual reality aimed toward helping men control and prolong their orgasms — making them last longer in bed. The film is porn company BaDoink VR’s most downloaded virtual reality film out of over 500 films. Now, Richmond is steering her Virtual Sexology sights on women, a demographic largely ignored by adult film companies,

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You Work Out. You Eat Well. But How’s Your Sex Life?

From your doctor to your partner to your Fitbit, chances are you’ve got something or someone monitoring your exercise, nutrition, and sleep habits. As the “big three” of lifestyle-related health practices, each one plays a significant role in preventing illness and keeping you generally upbeat. But you’re forgetting about one crucial part of your health. Rates of Sex Are Declining According to 2017 research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, Americans living with their partners are having a lot less sex than they used to. Specifically, in the 10 years between 2004 and 2014, domestic couples’ sex lives dropped

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Desire Discrepancy

No single argument, short of physical or verbal abuse, should end a relationship. And arguing in a relationship is seen by a modern couples therapist as a positive way to resolve a difference in perspective. How a couple argues, how a couple respectfully approaches difference, and how a couple stays away from negative, unhealthy interactions, makes the difference. So, for a couples therapist, a relationship ending disagreement is not a single event, but rather a series of failures over time about a single unresolvable topic. Most chroniclers of relationship point to sex and money as primary problems. As a sex

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8 Stories Of Vacation Sex Gone Horribly Wrong

There’s something about travel that makes sex better. There’s a sense of adventure, inhibitions are lowered, anonymity is heightened. You’re in a far away place meeting new and interesting people, and what better way to get to know someone than by having sex with them, amirite? But more often than not, the idea of travel sex is hotter than the reality of it. Just check out the stories we collected from 10 fellow travellers below.But first, how do you avoid similar disaster? A few easy measures can make a big difference, says Holly Richmond, a somatic psychologist and certified sex

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10 Sex “Rules” For People In Long-Term Relationships

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What It’s Like to Try to Have a Normal Sex Life After Rape

Physical intimacy can trigger or worsen PTSD, but regaining a fulfilling sex life is possible.Rape survivors are more than twice as likely to report pain during sex and nearly three times more at risk for pelvic floor dysfunctions (difficulty urinating, lower back pain) than other women. Other survivors don’t believe they deserve pleasure—or they suffer flashbacks while being intimate, says sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D. In these cases, Richmond advises relearning what feels good through masturbation. “It helps them realize they’re capable of sexual satisfaction again,” she says. The Clit List, a sex website designed for sexual assault survivors (each

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Why Some Women Love Degrading Sex

One night, after too many whiskey sours, the conversation among a group of my closest friends and I turned to sex. We’re not a judge-y group, nor are we bashful when it comes to providing the intimate details of our sex lives. And, yet, when one of my friends revealed that she falls off the orgasmic cliff when her boyfriend calls her a “whore” just as she’s about to come, she lowered her eyelids to the table. She seemed almost apologetic. “You guys know me, you know I’m a feminist,” she told us. “But I can’t help it — that

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What the sex robots will teach us

(CNN) In HBO’s series “Westworld,” humans pay for sex with robots in an anything-goes Wild West-inspired theme park. In the movie “Her,” a man falls in love with his Siri-like operating system. And in AMC’s show “Humans,” a husband has an affair with his pretty robotic assistant. It’s the stuff of science fiction. But could a world in which robots are at our sexual beck and call be nearer than we think? What would that mean for humanity and for our sex lives? Most experts agree that we’re at least decades away from a true “Westworld” scenario. We just don’t have

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