Archive for June 2017

You Work Out. You Eat Well. But How’s Your Sex Life?

From your doctor to your partner to your Fitbit, chances are you’ve got something or someone monitoring your exercise, nutrition, and sleep habits. As the “big three” of lifestyle-related health practices, each one plays a significant role in preventing illness and keeping you generally upbeat. But you’re forgetting about one crucial part of your health. Rates of Sex Are Declining According to 2017 research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, Americans living with their partners are having a lot less sex than they used to. Specifically, in the 10 years between 2004 and 2014, domestic couples’ sex lives dropped […]

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Desire Discrepancy

No single argument, short of physical or verbal abuse, should end a relationship. And arguing in a relationship is seen by a modern couples therapist as a positive way to resolve a difference in perspective. How a couple argues, how a couple respectfully approaches difference, and how a couple stays away from negative, unhealthy interactions, makes the difference. So, for a couples therapist, a relationship ending disagreement is not a single event, but rather a series of failures over time about a single unresolvable topic. Most chroniclers of relationship point to sex and money as primary problems. As a sex […]

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8 Stories Of Vacation Sex Gone Horribly Wrong

There’s something about travel that makes sex better. There’s a sense of adventure, inhibitions are lowered, anonymity is heightened. You’re in a far away place meeting new and interesting people, and what better way to get to know someone than by having sex with them, amirite? But more often than not, the idea of travel sex is hotter than the reality of it. Just check out the stories we collected from 10 fellow travellers below.But first, how do you avoid similar disaster? A few easy measures can make a big difference, says Holly Richmond, a somatic psychologist and certified sex […]

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10 Sex “Rules” For People In Long-Term Relationships

No matter how many dozens of Netflix-and-chill nights you and your long-term partner have had together, there’s something that keeps you tuning in for more. But just as individuals age and change over time, the same goes for your sex life: What turned you on when you first made it Facebook official might not be the same for you now. Experts say that the key to a happy, fulfilling sex life with a long-term S.O. is changing things up and making your own new sex “rules” as you go along. But of course, these “rules” aren’t hard and fast, and [...]Read more

What It’s Like to Try to Have a Normal Sex Life After Rape

Physical intimacy can trigger or worsen PTSD, but regaining a fulfilling sex life is possible.Rape survivors are more than twice as likely to report pain during sex and nearly three times more at risk for pelvic floor dysfunctions (difficulty urinating, lower back pain) than other women. Other survivors don’t believe they deserve pleasure—or they suffer flashbacks while being intimate, says sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D. In these cases, Richmond advises relearning what feels good through masturbation. “It helps them realize they’re capable of sexual satisfaction again,” she says. The Clit List, a sex website designed for sexual assault survivors (each […]

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Why Some Women Love Degrading Sex

One night, after too many whiskey sours, the conversation among a group of my closest friends and I turned to sex. We’re not a judge-y group, nor are we bashful when it comes to providing the intimate details of our sex lives. And, yet, when one of my friends revealed that she falls off the orgasmic cliff when her boyfriend calls her a “whore” just as she’s about to come, she lowered her eyelids to the table. She seemed almost apologetic. “You guys know me, you know I’m a feminist,” she told us. “But I can’t help it — that […]

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What the sex robots will teach us

(CNN) In HBO’s series “Westworld,” humans pay for sex with robots in an anything-goes Wild West-inspired theme park. In the movie “Her,” a man falls in love with his Siri-like operating system. And in AMC’s show “Humans,” a husband has an affair with his pretty robotic assistant. It’s the stuff of science fiction. But could a world in which robots are at our sexual beck and call be nearer than we think? What would that mean for humanity and for our sex lives? Most experts agree that we’re at least decades away from a true “Westworld” scenario. We just don’t have […]

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The Silent Intimacy Killer That’s Ruining Your Relationship

What happened the last time you were disappointed, angry, or hurt by something your partner did? If you chose to remain silent, you’re not alone. Many of us were never taught how to communicate effectively. Instead, we shut down or silently harbor resentment. Unfortunately, over time, these communication breakdowns create negative patterns that eventually dampen the intimacy in the relationship. “Often we stop communicating because one or both partners feels ‘it’s not worth it,’” says psychologist Anjhula Mya Singh Bais, PhD. “They have been down that path, and they think they know what it holds—more anger, bitterness, and frustration.” These […]

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4 Things That Happen To Your Vagina When You Stop Having Sex

The benefits of a healthy, happy sex life are myriad: Besides being fun, regular (good) sex boosts your immune system, cuts your stress levels, lowers your blood pressure, and reduces your risk of heart attack. Depending how much effort you put into it, intercourse also kinda/sorta counts as exercise, so you can feel good about being short a few steps on your Fitbit. Oh, and when you orgasm, a hormone called oxytocin—the “cuddle hormone”—floods your body with a rush of bliss, putting a smile on your face and helping you bond with your partner. But not every woman has the […]

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9 Relationship Experts Reveal What They Learned From Their Own Divorces

Ending a marriage is rarely pleasant, but sometimes it's unavoidable. Every rocky relationship can't be repaired—and even relationship experts aren't divorce-proof. These pros share what they learned after divorce, how that first-hand experience shaped the way they guide their clients, and what they'll do differently the next time around.  It's okay to seek help. "Divorce sometimes seems easier than fixing your marriage, but it's usually not. When my [second] husband and I were about to get married, we were both nervous because of past failures. So we made a deal: If we can't solve a problem within 3 days, we'd [...]Read more
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